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Until a guy proves he’s worth it, I’m good with keeping my expectations and hope in check so that I don’t end up feeling devastated when it all goes wrong. I’m only human and I do want to find love, but I’ve trained myself not to get my hopes up and my feelings involved too soon. I don’t let my feelings get too deep too quickly.Then again, that makes me feel kinda depressed that this is the reality for most single women… While there’s always a risk of becoming too negative, I do feel like commiserating with my girls about our shared frustrations and disappointments with guys goes a long way toward reminding me that I’m not alone. As I say, I’ve lost count of the number of times my friends and I have lamented “I swear to God, I hate men!” after another terrible experience. I commiserate with my friends about our dating disasters.There’s nothing I hate more than when men act like I’m so desperate for a relationship that I’ll put up with pretty much anything just to avoid being alone. If a guy I’m dating is being inconsistent, treating me like an option, or leaving me on read for days on end, I’m out. This is basically a follow-on from the above.

I ice guys out if they’re not showing up for me/the relationship.

I hate men who treat me as if I’m disposable or a second option, simple as that. I won’t put up with a guy who does these things either. I’m not interested in playing games like pretending to be hard to get, flirting with other men to stoke jealousy, or being hot and cold because I can’t decide how I feel. I know what I want from a guy and from a relationship and I make that clear from the beginning.

I set out my standards and expectations early on.

I have a great life full of a solid group of amazing girlfriends, a job I love, a supportive family, hobbies and interests… any guy I add to the mix should be so lucky.

I don’t need to freak out when things go wrong with a guy because I’m totally fine being on my own.

This is probably the best way to deal with the frustration of dating men who are always doing sh-t you hate. I’ve learned to love being single so I don’t need a relationship.Here’s how I date men even though I “hate” them. That being said, I do enjoy penises and am undeniably attracted to guys who look like they could have auditioned to be Jason Momoa’s understudy in Aquaman, so I have to find a way around it. Maybe it’s better to say that I hate the things a lot of men do. I’m not a misandrist and I don’t literally hate anyone, obviously, but I do find that a huge portion of straight dudes drive me (and most other women I know) absolutely nuts. If you’re a heterosexual woman who dates cis-gendered guys, I’m sure you’ve entered the phrase “I hate men!” more times than you can count.